In conversations about gender identity, you may have heard the term “deadname.” But what exactly does it mean — and why is using someone’s correct name so important? For transgender and nonbinary people, names are deeply tied to identity, respect, and mental wellbeing. Understanding the concept of a deadname can help us become more inclusive, compassionate, and supportive allies.

What Is a Deadname?

A deadname is the name that a transgender or nonbinary person was given at birth, but no longer uses. This name often reflects a gender identity they no longer identify with. Once someone transitions or comes out, they may choose a name that better reflects who they truly are — and that name should be used consistently in all contexts.

Why Is It Called a 'Deadname'?

The term 'deadname' symbolises that the name is no longer part of a person’s identity. It is a way of recognising that their former name no longer reflects their lived experience or true self. Referring to someone by their deadname — even accidentally — can be hurtful, invalidating, and in some cases, traumatic.

How Deadnaming Affects Mental Health

Research has shown that being called by one’s chosen name significantly improves mental health outcomes. A 2018 study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health found that transgender youth who were addressed by their chosen name experienced lower rates of depression and suicidal ideation. Conversely, being repeatedly deadnamed can contribute to feelings of dysphoria, anxiety, and distress.

How to Avoid Deadnaming Someone

• Always use the name a person has asked you to use.
• If you're unsure, politely ask: “What name and pronouns do you use?”
• Update records, contact lists, and forms to reflect the correct name.
• If you make a mistake, apologise quickly, correct yourself, and move on — don’t dwell or over-explain.
• Don’t ask about someone’s deadname — it’s private and not relevant to their identity today.

Respecting Identity Builds Trust

For many trans and gender-diverse people, being seen and respected for who they are is life-affirming. Using their correct name is a simple yet powerful act of validation. In therapeutic settings, schools, workplaces, and beyond, avoiding deadnaming helps create safer, more inclusive environments for everyone.

Final Thoughts

At Therapy from Home, we believe in affirming identities and creating a space where clients feel fully respected. Understanding what a deadname is — and committing not to use it — is a vital step in supporting the mental wellbeing of transgender and nonbinary individuals. Small acts of respect can make a world of difference.