For many people, being addressed with the correct pronouns is more than a courtesy — it's a validation of identity. As society becomes more aware of gender diversity, the use of gender-affirming language has taken on new importance, particularly in healthcare, education, and everyday interactions. But why does it matter so much? Let’s take a look at what current research tells us.

1. Pronoun Respect Reduces Mental Health Risk

According to The Trevor Project’s 2020 national survey, transgender and nonbinary youth whose pronouns were respected by all or most people in their lives were 50% less likely to attempt suicide. Similarly, research in Australia has shown that affirmation through correct names and pronouns significantly lowers rates of depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts in gender-diverse individuals.

2. Using Correct Pronouns Builds Safety and Trust

In therapeutic and healthcare settings, correct pronoun use is critical for creating a safe and inclusive space. Studies show that misgendering — even unintentionally — can cause distress, increase distrust, and result in clients disengaging from care. On the other hand, correct pronoun use helps build rapport, reduce minority stress, and foster openness in therapeutic relationships.

3. It’s a Form of Gender Affirmation

Gender affirmation refers to the social, legal, medical, and emotional support that recognises a person’s gender identity. Using someone’s correct pronouns is one of the most basic yet powerful forms of social affirmation. Research consistently shows that gender-affirming environments support self-esteem, reduce psychological distress, and contribute to better overall wellbeing.

4. Respectful Language Is Good for Everyone

Creating a culture where pronouns are respected benefits not just trans and nonbinary people, but everyone. It fosters empathy, inclusion, and psychological safety. When workplaces, schools, and therapy spaces adopt inclusive language practices, it signals that all identities are valid and welcome.

5. What You Can Do

• Introduce yourself with your pronouns (e.g., 'Hi, I'm Sam, I use she/her').
• Ask others for their pronouns in a respectful and private way.
• Use gender-neutral language when unsure (e.g., 'they/them').
• If you make a mistake, apologise briefly, correct yourself, and move on.
• Include pronouns in email signatures, Zoom names, and business cards to normalise the practice.

Final Thoughts

At Therapy from Home, we believe everyone deserves to be seen, heard, and respected for who they are. Using the correct pronouns is a small act with a big impact — especially for people navigating identity, transition, or mental health challenges. Our telehealth psychologists are committed to inclusive, affirming care where clients can feel safe, supported, and understood.